“ Learn how to change how you see, not how you feel. As the Buddhist view has consistently demonstrated, it is the perspective of the sufferer that determines whether a given experience perpetuates suffering or is a vehicle for awakening. To work something through means to change one’s view; if we try instead to change the emotion, we may achieve some short-term success, but we remain bound by forces of attachment and aversion to the very feelings from which we are struggling to be free.
— Mark Epstein, from “Shattering the Ridgepole,” Tricycle, Spring 1995
